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Death Rate Jumps 22% for Middle-Aged Whites

Death Rate Jumps 22% for Middle-Aged Whites

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The New York Times reported in a front page article that white Americans without a college degree are dying at an accelerated rate due to suicide, fast and slow.

The rising annual death rates among this group are being driven not by the big killers like heart disease and diabetes but by an epidemic of suicides and afflictions stemming from substance abuse: alcoholic liver disease and overdoses of heroin and prescription opioids.

Nobel Prize-winning economist Paul Krugman called it “Despair, American Style” in an op-ed piece today.

In a recent interview Mr. Deaton suggested that middle-aged whites have “lost the narrative of their lives.” That is, their economic setbacks have hit hard because they expected better. Or to put it a bit differently, we’re looking at people who were raised to believe in the American Dream, and are coping badly with its failure to come true.

About a year ago, two of my brothers drank themselves to death on opposite sides on the country. Dave (on the right in the picture below) died on Oct. 5 in Virginia and Greg died on Nov. 17 in Oregon. Both were in their 50’s, both had retired a few years earlier, neither retirement was completely voluntary, neither had finished college. Neither had a strong plan for retirement, both slipped in to spending a lot of time with their best friend, beer. This photo was taken one year prior, on a vacation in Florida.

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In the days following the publication of this alarming data, there was some pushback over methodologies, so Angus Deaton released this drill-down info.
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My brothers, who grew up in the 1950’s, rode the post-WWII juggernaut where men were men and drank to prove it. They lived their lives as if everything was going to take care of itself, which was the prevailing assumption in the days of Ozzie & Harriett and Leave It To Beaver. What was different about these two, however, is that they were musicians who became stalled at the “talented amateur” stage. They didn’t pursue enough training to focus their minds or to hone their talent. They never developed a commitment to their art.They never even learned to read music. But their artistic temperaments were difficult to live with, and they numbed themselves. To death.

blackoutSarah Hepola, author of “Blackout: Remembering the things I drank to forget” attributed alcohol addiction to heredity and culture. My brothers did not live in a culture that encouraged thinking in healthy ways. They did not see their father, another talented piano player, take an active part in creating healthier emotions, minimizing emotional suffering and maximizing joy. According to Debbie Joffee Ellis in a letter to the NYTimes, “To create healthy [emotions] requires willingness to think in realistic… ways and to recognize when we are catastrohizing, and then to dispute such thoughts. Don’t worry, think wisely, be healthier and happier.”

The New York Times review of her book says:

Ms. Hepola’s electric prose … has direct access to the midnight gods of torch songs, neon signs, tap beer at a reasonable price, cigarettes and untrammeled longing.

She may have squandered her early carreer
and now is back in Texas, finally publishing her first novel at age 40. I enjoyed the book and I think she is going to beat the odds in the charts above because she finished college, and knew she was a good writer. She made a living at it while she used alcohol as “the gasoline of all adventure.” Now she has sobered up and found her path. I’m so glad.

How to Build a Personality Disorder

How to Build a Personality Disorder

Last weekend I went camping with a group of people, including a five-year old boy.  He was a delight and the apple of his parents eyes.  He was a late-in-life gift, arriving when his two older sisters were already in high school.  Diego and I spent several hours building sandcastles as part of the Doran Beach Sand Castle Competiton.  He wanted to win, and he looked triumphant when  his picture was taken with “Mr. Diego,” his pyramid-like sand creation with two sticks poking out at rakish angles.

I found myself thinking about the obituary of Dr. James Masterson who died on April 12.  Dr. Masterson won fame by pointing out that personality disorders like Narcissism and Borderline Personality Disorder are created by mistreating toddlers aged 18 to 36 months old.  It was clear that Diego had a very good opinion of himself and that he has been praised often.  Luckily, he has two big sisters who gave him frequent reality adjustments.  He had none of the black/white, on/off, love/hate fast-changing emotions of kids whose caregivers withhold love as punishment, then get all gooey when they feel guilty later on.  He was full of energy and ideas and loved to play.

Other kids were going around stomping on unguarded sand castles.  Not Diego.  He was inventing new games for chasing floating toys in the surf. What a joy!