Through the DevChix mail list, found Hypatia.ca and, because I am a fan of Hypatia, I checked it out and found Mark Manson’s blogspot “F#ck Yes or No” It was interesting to learn that he used to be a dating coach.

Remember, it’s your job to look for something cool in everyone you meet; it’s not their job to show you. This is life, not a fucking sales convention. Learning to appreciate people you meet is a skill you cultivate.

He also has a post on my least=favorite word “vulnerability,” which I prefer to think of as “opening the heart-space.” Vulnerability connotes weakness to me, like being the one without a sword in a duel. He says:

If you are lukewarm on absolutely everyone you meet, then either your demographics are way off, or you suffer from a lack of vulnerability and are protecting yourself by remaining indifferent and unenthused by all of those around you.

I wonder if I have been interpreting a lack of enthusiasm in others as (1) depression or (2) only pretending to be interested, when the issue might be (3) an effort to protect from feeling vulnerable, woundable.